Although we’re not all self-proclaimed vamps in bed, I think it’s safe to say everyone enjoys a little erotic biting now and again. Whether it’s on the neck, thighs, or someplace a little more intimate, biting can be a sign of passion, aggression and sensual pleasure. If you’re new to this kind of token of affection, our guide is just the thing you need to get a handle on trying it out for yourself and enjoying a little gentle (or not so gentle) nibbling of your own!
Your Guide to Erotic Biting
- Test the Waters: If you’ve never tried erotic biting in bed with a partner, you might want to take things slow. Test the waters by gently grazing their neck or collar bone with your teeth as you kiss them. You don’t want to go gnawing away at someone who might not be into it so it’s best to ease into things. If you’re really unsure, you can speak with your partner directly and see if that’s something they’re okay with. Communication is key!
- Where to Bite: Where you decide to dig your teeth in (however gently) is up to you and your partner, but there are specific erogenous zones that will act as pleasure spots for your partner. These are great places to start if you’re new to sensual biting. These pleasure hot spots include your neck, collar bone, lips, thighs, butt, and even breasts, vagina (if they’re okay with it!), and inner wrists. Be gentle until you know if you’re partner is into it and communicate what you both like to determine the best plan of action, intensity, etc.
- How to Bite: As I previously said, you don’t want to go gnawing away at your partner without their consent. That’s the quickest way to kill the mood if they’re not into it. If they are okay with gentle biting, however, make sure your bites are quick, gentle, and don’t break skin. On top of that, intimate areas are completely off limits unless you and your partner agree it’s okay to do so. And remember: hickies are tacky.
- Slowly Increase Intensity: Again, erotic biting is something you’ll want to ease into. Gentle biting here and there as you kiss and caress your partner is a great way to build up the intensity over time. The pressure and intensity of the bites all depend on you and your partner’s tastes so be sure to communicate how you feel, what you like, and what you don’t so that your partner can reciprocate their desires as well.